I can’t remember where I heard about Hollaback!, but I checked it out today, and I’m really glad I did.
Hollaback! is a movement dedicated to ending street harassment using mobile technology. Street harassment is one of the most pervasive forms of gender-based violence and one of the least legislated against. Comments from “You’d look good on me” to groping, flashing and assault are a daily, global reality for women and LGBTQ individuals. But it is rarely reported, and it’s culturally accepted as ‘the price you pay’ for being a woman or for being gay. At Hollaback!, we don’t buy it.
This movement is amazing! I began to click some of the points on the map and read through the stories about others’ experiences with street harassment. I was reminded of the hundreds (that is in no way an exaggeration) of disgusting, rude, and totally despicable comments (not “compliments”) that I’ve endured throughout my own life. From having a man pass my friend and I at the mall when we were 13 and say to our faces “Mmm pusssyyy” to walking anywhere given day being catcalled, asked my name, my number, being told I’m beautiful, sexy, being yelled at from cars, from stoops, being approached, etc etc etc. Many of these individual experiences came flooding back into my mind.
I remember all of the times when I felt helpless, disgusting, and most of all angry. I was angry when all I could reply to the two immature turds driving beside me for three blocks yelling “firecrotch” on Passyunk in South Philly, was “Really? Are you serious?” or that I was literally speechless when two disheveled “homeless” guys downtown Santa Cruz approached me and asked for spare change one night a few years ago, and when I said “Sorry…” they just called me a “stupid whore” and walked away. But it’s not only helpless, disgusting and angry that I’ve felt. I’ve also very often felt scared. And so have many women I know. My sister and I have shared our stories and fears, like the period of time when she was repeatedly followed walking home after leaving the gym, and it’s been helpful to get these things off our chests and give advice to one another. But it’s also really important to try to actively end street harassment.
What is so great about Hollaback! is that while reading the stories is simultaneously depressing (and difficult), it is also empowering. It also offers women and LGBTQ people a place to hold those who harass accountable.
I encourage everyone to check out the site, share your stories, and donate to the movement.
I really like this post from the San Jose chapter:
In order to avoid being harassed, have you ever:
- Avoided walking at night or alone?
- Dressed differently?
- Avoided eye contact with strangers?
- Stayed away from certain areas?
- Driven or bicycled instead of walking?
- Hunched your shoulders, tensed your body, or otherwise changed your posture?
- What else?
Imagine if we didn’t have to do that anymore when we went out in public.
Imagine if we had real freedom of movement.
Imagine if our family and friends no longer admonished us to stay inside in order to avoid being hurt or degraded in public.We can end street harassment in San Jose and make this a reality.
Also check out RightRides, a service that offers “women, LGBTQ and gender nonconforming individuals a free, late-night ride home to ensure their safe commute to or through high-risk areas.”